Safety
Is Get A Shag Safe? How We Look After Members
Yes, if you use your head as well as ours. Here's every protection on the site, what you control and how to meet up smart.
Can You Trust the People You Meet Here?
Trust, but check. Get A Shag keeps your name, email and address off your profile, offers every member an ID check at no charge, screens uploads with software and human reviewers, and has people answering by chat and messaging, day and night. Nobody checks every profile, though, so your common sense still matters.
It's adults only, 18+, and the member terms don't sugar-coat it: an entertainment service, no criminal background checks, and profiles or messages that may not be genuine.
How Get A Shag Protects Members
Some of it runs in the background; the rest is yours to use.
Known by a Username
Your profile shows a username and your nearest town or city. Your real name, email, address and live location never appear.
Findable online, not at your front door.
Badges Worth Looking For
The optional ID check costs nothing and adds an ID verified badge; a staff review can add an admin validation badge.
See at a glance who has been checked.
Live Video Check
A live video check with a moderator confirms someone is who they say they are, with no documents.
A real face, shown to a real person.
Age Checks
Automatic age estimation backs up the 18+ rule, with more checks where the law requires them.
Another barrier for under-18s.
Screened Uploads
Software and human reviewers screen photos, videos and text on upload for content that breaks the rules.
A filter plus a second pair of eyes.
Blurred Until You Look
Pictures that may be explicit arrive blurred, with a warning, until you choose to look.
You decide what you see.
Off-Site Warning
If someone tries to move your chat to WhatsApp or another app, you get a warning.
Ask yourself why they're in a rush.
Bot and Scammer Watch
Behaviour on the site is monitored for signs of bots and scammers.
You're not the only one watching for fakes.
Fast Takedowns
Content shared without consent is taken down fast.
Speed matters when it's your picture.
Block, Report and Rate
Blocking is instant, you can report from inside the site, and members' feedback, including one-click thumbs up or down, builds a reputation score.
Bad behaviour gets noticed, and so do good manners.
Payments and Data
Card payments and member data are kept on PCI-compliant cloud hosting with SSL.
Card details handled to the card industry's security standard.
Help, Day and Night
You can reach a human by chat or messaging at any time of day or night.
Someone to talk to when something feels off.
Industry Safety Standards
Get A Shag's platform takes part in the Online Dating and Discovery Association's work on safety standards.
Working alongside the rest of the industry on safety.
You Call the Shots
Leave your surname, workplace, phone number and social media off your profile; the member terms keep contact details off profiles anyway. Chat on Get A Shag until you're sure about someone, block the moment a chat turns sour and report anyone who breaks the house rules. Done with it all? Delete your profile and data from your membership page whenever you like.
How Do You Meet for Casual Sex Safely?
Meeting a stranger for sex is half the thrill. Five habits keep it that way.
- Meet in public first. A drink somewhere busy before anywhere private. Not who you expected? Finish up and go.
- Tell a friend. Who, where, when and their username, plus a time you'll check in.
- Make your own way. Your own transport, a charged phone and cab fare home, so you never need them for a lift.
- Consent, every time. Saying yes to a meet isn't saying yes to sex, and if either of you changes your mind, that's that. In England and Wales, the Sexual Offences Act 2003 says you consent when you agree by your own choice, with the freedom and capacity to make it.
- Bring condoms. The NHS says free condoms are available from sexual health clinics, some GP surgeries and pharmacies; if one splits, get urgent help from a pharmacist, clinic, GP or 111.
More in our first-meet safety guide and sexual health guide.
Spot a Scammer Before They Spot You
- They ask for money. An emergency, travel costs, an investment: whatever the story, that's your cue to stop. City of London Police says never send money, cryptocurrency or gift cards to someone you haven't met face to face.
- They push to leave the site. WhatsApp, text, anywhere but here, which is why the site warns you.
- Their camera never works. Police Scotland counts refusing to video call or meet in person as a warning sign.
- They threaten to share your pictures. That's sextortion. The National Crime Agency says don't pay, stop contact, block them and keep the evidence, and that it isn't your fault.
More in our guide to sex scams and sextortion.
Where to Get Help in the UK
- Someone is in danger
- Call the police on 999. If it isn't an emergency, call 101.
- You've been scammed
- Tell Report Fraud (run by the City of London Police, and the service that took over from Action Fraud), online or on 0300 123 2040. In Scotland, call Police Scotland on 101; it also says to contact your bank on a number you know to be correct.
- Intimate pictures shared or threatened
- SWGfL's intimate image abuse helpline supports adults on 0345 6000 459, 10am to 4pm on weekdays (not bank holidays). Its StopNCII.org tool fingerprints an image on your own device so participating platforms can remove copies.
- After a sexual assault
- Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 500 2222, 24/7, for anyone 16 or over. Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02, 5pm to midnight daily. The NHS says sexual assault referral centres offer medical, practical and emotional support, and you needn't report to the police unless you want to.
- Sexual health worries
- The NHS sexual health helpline is on 0300 123 7123, and the NHS says STI tests are free and available to everyone.
Safety Questions, Answered
Is Get A Shag safe?
It's built to be: usernames, screened uploads, instant blocking and help day and night. The checks are optional, though, so meet in public first and never send money.
Are profiles on Get A Shag checked?
Some are. Look for the ID verified badge from the optional ID check and the admin validation badge from a staff review; moderators also run live video checks.
What should I do if someone asks me for money?
Stop replying, then block and report them; asking members for money breaks the terms. If you've paid, call your bank and report it to Report Fraud, or Police Scotland on 101.
What if someone threatens to share my pictures?
Don't pay or send anything else. The National Crime Agency says stop contact, block, keep the evidence and report it to the police on 101, or 999 in an emergency.
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